Advising the arrival of the rules to his dad may seem awkward, intimidating, seeing frightening, especially if your only parent available at this time is your PAPA and you are therefore obliged to announce it.
Many parents don't know when or how to talk rules to their girls. However, it is essential to take the fronts: for those who, knowing nothing, could become involved only for those who believe that they know everything thanks to their friends or sisters.
Several factors can help define the right time: if the average age of puberty is 11 years, in general, the rules occur about two years after the first signs of the changes in the body appear. It is also said that the age at which the girl will have her rules is often not very far from the age at which the mother had her own.
Do not hesitate to request external advice
Protect yourself the first set of MA LOULOUTE rules adapted to the age of your daughter.
A guide explaining the rules will help you if your Louloute wishes to read it together or leave it at his disposal. Don’t hesitate to share and exchange freely with your friends also pre-adolescent mothers or to ask for help from your family doctor?
Concretely, to discuss the topic, you can start by talking to him about his girlfriends, ask if they discuss it together, if one of them has already had his rules.. You can also evoke the first changes of her body which she has necessarily realized as the appearance of breasts and hairs, growth peaks, weight gain for example and which she has been able to notice and perhaps worry about.
Addressing the subject according to its age
It is never too early and always late to discuss it.
If your daughter is still very young, no need to provide her with too precise information. Start by assessing what she knows and what she doesn’t know, and, depending on her maturity, choose the right words. “For example, tell her that she is still a little girl, but she’s about to become a woman, and that the changes in her body are the signs that she grows gradually, that her changes are necessary and normal, that her body works well, that all women pass through there and that she doesn’t have to worry, that the whole thing starts to talk at her own pace and that she doesn’t have to worry about it.
Little by little, with time, with dialogue and according to its reactions, become more precise. Explain to him what the rules correspond, “For example, start with the story of the famous baby seed, ovulation, menstrual cycle, etc. And even if she's looking at everything she already knows: the young girls are telling each other stories in recreation classes!
Explain and reassure
Rest assured your daughter, with very simple words, and note that this is a blood flow that lasts only a few days and that she can still go to the pool or do the gym. Evoking on this occasion the various means of protection that exist, make them available to him with the modes of employment, and let him make his own experiences.
Raise the dirty, shameful, unclean aspect of the rules or women who have their rules, while inculcating a few notions of hygiene.
It is not to have its rules that are not normal.
In the first year, the rules are very irregular and if the first cycles are usually painless, it needs to be reassured again: there are many effective medications to fight sometimes vivid pains. Ask your doctor for advice.
Take the fronts, and encourage there to slip into her bag her kit "in case" if it happens at school and encourage her for example to go to the school nurse because she might be embarrassed to have to talk to you freely.
Day J: to be present but not too much
On your side, do not neglect this important moment for her while respecting her privacy - she may not already know how to announce it. “But it’s probably better for a slightly too expansive parent than a remote parent who seems not to care about it.
And above all, the most important thing is to reaffirm that you are always available for all his questions.